feel stuck. We'd probably be in a better situation once we sell the house but its just not selling. I hate to appear weak, but I feel as if I just can't handle it. Is that normal?
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I believe it's normal.. I'm the same way. I have no particular interest so I hate every job that I get, and having a job makes me hate my life.. But sadly I have to have one because I obviously need money.
yeah rude customers, evil bosses and lazy co workers can do that
Yes, being lazy is quite common especially among stay at home mothers. It seems you want to join those ranks. I do wonder though, what will happen to your children when the stress of being a mother wears on you. Hopefully, they at least have a good father.
Are you just not cut out to deal with workplace stress? No, that's impossible. It's just that you don't know how to deal with work place stress, you don't have the drive or the ability to commit to something. You lack the proper mechanisms to be a valuable member of society. Many people would and do run away to hide in their homes or make babies to give themselves and out for that kind of responsibility, but why be that way?
I suggest that you get some therapy, nothing long term, maybe group therapy or even a self help book. You need to learn how to deal with stress. You should also start getting involved in the budgetting of your home and your children's college fund. You need to realize the importance of money.
I also suggest you think about the usefulness of work and why running away to stay at home and raise your children is in many ways socially wrong.
It sounds to me like you're in the wrong line of work. It's probably not a general inability to deal with workplace stress, but rather the particular type of stress you're exposed to.
Since you're the primary breadwinner right now, it isn't realistic to consider a complete career change. But you might try to get moved within your workplace.
Some questions to ask yourself are:
- When are you happiest? What are you doing when you're happy? Who are you with? (Even seemingly mundane things might give you a clue...)
I had a career that I hated. Everyone said I should love it (it paid well), but I dreaded every day. I was always stressed out. I was lucky enough to stumble on something I'm absolutely passionate about (psychology). Things in this field that other people might find stressful just role off my back.
Good luck.
i really did not like the last job i had they had a retirement plan that let your retire and get about 50% of your current salary for the rest of your life after 23 years of service so i stuck it out the whole 23 years and now i am retired. there were so many times during those 23 years that i seriously wanted to quit but i stuck it out. i really do believe that there are some people that can handle it much better than others, they find ways to make the job fun. i was never able to. there are alot of people that got offered the same retirement i did and refused it and are still working there so unless they were really financially bad off they would have jumped at the chance to retire so i figure they couldn't have been as miserable as i was. all i can say is i understand how you feel, your coping skills are probably weak, i took tranquilizers the last 20 years i worked at that job, maybe a psychiatrist can help you to deal with workplace situations better, good luck to you