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Actually a person with true borderline personality disorder will usually not feel a great deal of remorse or guilt for their actions. They may apologize but generally they justify their actions and may even bring up the situation that caused the problem in a later arguement and suddenly it becomes apparent that, in spite of their apology, they felt they were right all along.
STay away, stay far away.
My mother had BPD. I diagnosed her when I was in my 30s and came across a DSM-III manual of psychiatric disorders. I was stunned to discover my mother in almost every aspect of the affective disorders chapter.
These people can be cured, but it TAKES YEARS, and they have to want to be cured. Something went wrong when they were very very young, and so this is a very intractable long-term ailment.
Stay the hell away, is my advice.
As for remorse, who knows. I sincerely doubt it. And what does it matter? Unless you want to sign up for a lifetime of misery, like my poor dad unwittingly did, keep away from this woman. Go find someone psychologically healthy now. This one is years and years away from being healthy. Don't you deserve a mentally healthy woman? If you think you are going to rescue her, think again. Instead, you are going to find that "no good turn goes unpunished". Instead of rescuing her, you will drown yourself in misery and should you have kids, you will have signed them up for misery.
It took years to recover from the damage my dreadful mother did to me with that BPD she has. Some of my siblings have never recovered.
Hope this opens your eyes.
I have Borderline personality disorder, and I know that when I strike out in anger, that I feel guilty. Do I always apologize? Only if I feel the situation warrents it. But then see, I'm also bi-polar, so most of the time, t he bi-polar kind of balances out the BPD.
I think that people with BPD have other disorders that co-exist with the BPD. Although they seem to display a tiny bit of remorse the occasional time, they will never fully take responsibility for their actions...if they yelled at you, somehow someway, you provoked it. So, yes, they will always find a way to justify their actions. I'm divorcing a BPD/NPD who has robbed me of my spirit, self esteem, individuality. It's good that yours only lasted 2 months...your life hadn't been torn apart yet..you just went on a miniature roller coaster ride.