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Hi if you FEEL you need another therapist, you should do exactly that, as a client you have the right to make sure your needs are properly met and yes you shoud feel you are getting something from therapy the moment you start.
Have you told this therapist what you have said here?
My advice would be for you to give it more time. But be sure to ask thier opinions.
to be able to get the best out of your treatment, you should at least trust your therapist 99% to have some effect, positive effects that is.
if you think that your therapist is not working for you, this may mean you are not fully convicned that this person will be able to help you, if this is so, you would not be complying with whatever reccomendations this person has for you, so it is pointless to be staying under this therapists' care. shop around, ask, and do your research. explore it, and try your old one, even just for one more time. if by then you still feel the same, then tell your therapist youo need to find a new one and maybe he/she can give you other names where you can go to.
A therapist and the client have to have chemistry. If you aren't vibing with her, let the main office know. They are used to this. People change therapists all the time.
And on another note, sometimes it really does take more than a few sessions to get comfortable. I went through 3 therapists in 2.5 years. All have different methods and styles to adjust to.
And please, therapy is NOT intended for giving advice! Although many counselors do this, it's not technically their job. They should be listening and guiding your thoughts. Helping you put things together in your head, and not telling you what/how/who/etc. The goal should be to gain your own methods of dealing with daily stuff, not relying on therapists to handle your life.
Best of luck to you!
Honestly, I have found I know by the 3rd visit if my therapist is going to work out. Part of the training to become a therapist - at least when I was going through classes (only made it one year, ha!) was that is was to be expected you can't help everyone. And it is understood that sometimes the patient will need someone else. The point of the therapy is to HELP you and if you don't feel the right connection I would simply say I am not feeling entirely comfortable and would like a different therapist.
It's ok to want to change and I am sure they will be understanding.
Best of luck!
Therapists have styles, or methods of practice. Some of these are more interventionist than others. If you feel that a more directive therapist would suit you better, tell your current therapist and ask her to recommend one.
i didn't get any where until i kept quite and general.
then the occasional conversation of personal dispute could be evaluated
You probably don't have to face to face, send him a fax stating you wish to find another doctor.or you can do it with an e-mail, If you want, state the "reason for leaving" as needing a more aggressive approach. Good luck!