There is a guy that has a crush on me in 1 of my calsses. He makes me uncomfortable beyond belief, especially when I can see him out the corner of my eye staring at me for quite long periods of time. I always avoid eye contact with him because he makes me feel uneasy and like I'm pinpointed. Somehow he always finds a way to say Hello and Bye to me every day.
In school during passing periods between classes, I will do anything I can to avoid eye contact with people, like I will look at the floor or focus on something like the back of
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Oh my god star, I know exactly how you feel! I am 19 years old and went through the saaame things as you!! You should go talk to a psychologist NOT a Pshychiatrist they are totally different. They can actually give you medication that should help you go on with your life like everyone else. I was just like you no joke not on medication and managed to get a job, do well on the interview get through highschool all of it. Just try to tell yourdelf you will do fine on your interview positive thoughts!! I cant suggest what to do about the sweating and nervousness in class and crowds because I had the same problems and still dont know how to get rid of them, the only thing I could suggest is talking to a professional who may suggest medication or try and counsul you. Good Luck! : )
dear star,
i have social anxiety. my mother hasnt done anything to help me. i am just like u. i try to avoid public places, and presentations in the classroom makes me feel bad. i shake uncontrobably when im reading. its ok, bad to say, u do have social anxiety. its not the end of the world though. u can EASILY treat it hun! go to a therapist or councler, and DONT GET NEAR medication, they make u feel WORSE! if u want to contact me my email is aeritrea05@aol.com or if u have aim or aol, my screen name is aeritrea05.
For your own sake, don't take advise from this site. Every opinion will only leave you more confused. You may have a problem, and it may be mental or chemical, but leave this topic up to a professional. I do know what I am talking about. I hope you get control soon, I am 51, and started about your age. I have only come to understand it more fully in the past eight years. Professional help is what gave me my answers, and it might give yours,too.
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It sounds like you do have some social anxiety and panic attacks from what you describe. I would encourage you to get counseling as it can help some people with social anxiety.
However, although the other answer to this question encouraged you to stay away from drugs, I'd like to encourage you to keep your options open. Not everyone responds well to drugs, however there are PLENTY of people that research shows benefit from prescriptions for their anxiety. It is very individual as to how you will react to these medications.
See if there are any online support groups you can join, or a school counselor that you can talk to at first. If it is hard for you to talk to people in person (like a counselor) I would try online first as it is less direct and less likely to cause anxiety due to confrontation.
Hope this helps. Feel free to respond and I will try to write back again.
Everyone feels nervous from time to time. Going on a first date or giving a speech often causes that butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling, for example. Or maybe you feel shy at a party among a group of strangers, but then slowly warm up to them and have a great time.
For some people, though, this normal nervousness is magnified into extreme anxiety, fear and self-consciousness. Everyday social activities, even the most mundane, are virtually impossible. You may avoid dating, giving speeches or attending parties altogether. You may not even be able to eat with others or write a check at the grocery store.
When your anxiety is so extreme that it disrupts your life and you avoid certain situations, you may have social anxiety disorder. Social anxiety disorder is a chronic condition that causes an irrational anxiety or fear of activities or situations in which you feel others may be watching you or judging you. You also fear that you'll embarrass or humiliate yourself.
Social anxiety disorder, a type of anxiety disorder, is one of the most common mental disorders. Up to 13 percent of people in Western countries experience the condition at some point in their lives. Social anxiety disorder can be so debilitating that it interferes with work, school and other routine activities.