Answer:
Many times for someone to heal through something so traumatic... they need to talk about it. So you just writing about it is a very large step towards healing. There is no reason to forgive yourself ...sadly your sister and you were both victims. But it's definitely time to heal... I think one of the biggest steps is talking to your dad about what really happened to you and your sister... deny yourself the truth at that moment ... was a way of denying that it ever happened. Victims are asked to talk about it when they are ready. maybe at that moment you just weren't. But like the others i agree it's time that you talk to a professional that help you through these issues.
I'm so sorry about your childhood, no one deserves that. Call up a therapist and schedule some sessions.
If anything you need to tell your Dad the truth. What happened when you were younger wasn't either of your faults, but you really let you little sis down when you made her look like a liar.
Let it all go. You are only abusing yourself by even thinking about it. Move on. Life is short, it really is.
What if you found out today that you only had a month to live? Would any of this matter?
What could you possibly hope to get out of holding onto this guilt and pain?
Wake up tomorrow and vow that you are a new person and move on. Your parents are the ones to blame..I'd remove myself from them for sure. Who needs that in their life?
I've done a lot worse and I have been able to move on. I honestly think you are just using this as a reason to feel sorry for yourself- a reason to cry at night. Move on. You are much better off than thousands of other people.
my sondolences on your troubled past, but yes you need to get some counselling for your troubles.
Some professional therapy would probably be a good start for you and your sis. Yes you deserve to heal, forgive, and be forgiven. You were a victim, not a culprit.
its not your fault, none of it is. you should join an incest support group.
Hun, you need to realize it was not yor fault and as a child you did the best you could at the time to protect yourself. Therapy is a good idea for you but it will take hard work on your part to get through it and grow beyond the abused little girl into the beautiful, confident woman God wants you to be.
You didn't ask for it; you have nothing to feel sorry about or to be blamed for.
It is your older sister's problem, NOT YOURS. You have no reason to be angry or upset with yourself... you were a child trying to fight off something bigger than you.
Get some therapy. You do deserve it.
Dear, you need to fix yourself first. You will never be able to get along with your little sister until you can deal with what happened to yourself. This is your older sister's fault and you and your younger sister were just bullied.
You deserve to heal and forgive yourself. You were all victims. Even though your older sis was the aggressor, she was probably victimized too at some point, which taught her those behaviors. Seek counseling and as your emotions evolve you can decide whether to speak with your father about what happened to you.
Tell your dad the truth. Call up a therapist. Get some help..this isn't something you can fully heal yourself. You need a professional. Just having someone listen to you can help you. Talk with your little sister. You both should get help.
ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. You DIDNT DESERVE THAT. Give yourself room to heal. Forgive yourself. I'm not saying you should forgive your older sister, thats up to you. You must talk to a therapist.