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Hi there, i know EXACTLY how u feel, cause i feel the same. I dont know how about you, but i never had problem finding a boyfriend, because guys always liked me. I am a chatty person, so I never minded to talk with guy, but as soon as they showed me they liked me, i got all nervous, sometimes even unfriendly to them. I dont know why it is, but i really hate when someone likes me. Obviously it is nice to know, they you are atractive, but when someone shows interested in like going out , i always had problem with it. which is shame really, cause ive been on my own for 14 months now and im really sick of it. just today i was sitting in my room,having nice dinner, watching movie, but ON MY OWN. cant tell you how to get over that, probably if you meet someone, just go for it, without thinking about it,and you will see what happens.
you definitely need counseling. you think wayyyyy too much into things. i suggest you get counseling pronto!
do you have the same fear of women? perhaps it's a fear of intimacy and not of gender. I dunno, just a thought.
Stick with just guy friends to start with. No commitments. You have the right to have friends of the opposite sex without being in a serious relationship. That way you can get to know a few guys and start to be able to spot the good from the bad. Just be yourself.
Look, trust yourself, take risks, take precautions, and take things one step at a time. There are jerks all over. We know that. It doesn't mean you have to be victim. People will treat you as well as you expect them to, so don't tolerate being mistreated and you will be fine. You may have to go through some creeps to find a great man, but they are looking for a good woman just like you, so take it slow and believe in yourself. It is worth it.
U should be afraid of alot of men because we are wired to want u for one thing unfortunately and to be very good salesmen in that department, your thing is u have to find a man who dosent want that first. I am afraid of alot of women for women who only want me for one thing(and their reason is not sex lol) so dont feel bad.Good luck and i hope u and that guy meet but remeber if u go looking u will find something but it probably wont be what u want
Counciling
Maybe it has something to do with abuse by a man sometime in your life, especially as a child? they say people that suffer abuse have a hard time trusting people.
Some guys are just after the nookie so you have to weed those guys out. The way you can do that is by avoiding all the cocky guys. Maybe find a guy who is not the best looking but has a good heart.
am really sorry for this..but have you ever been sexually assaulted in some way??...i have and so has my cousin so we have the same problem as you..i know that its really har to deal with and even if you havent been assaulted..the fear of being intimate is hard to get rid of..you need to figure out why you are so scared...and start from there..theres no easy way out of this, and ur fear is not going to just go away..you say you want a boyfriend..well.i dont know you but i know how it was for me..i already had a boyfriend at the time whom i really love..so even though i didn't let him touch me or get even close to me for a while..it went away because i felt secure with him..if you always get scared around guys..it doesn't mean that you need to change..it may mean ur just around the wrong type of guys..honestly i really really think that once you find someone special who is going to make you feel every bit as special as you are, your fear is going to go away as time goes on..dint push ur self into anything..just give it time..and if u find the right guy he will give you time as well..if not ,well then he wasn't right for you..
i hope i helped at least a little bit..i wish you all the luck in the world and i really hope you will get through this...
take care=)
xx