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You answered you're own question. Bad memories from the past WILL affect the future. The deal with you're father would affect you're feelings towards life now. Take care.
You need to seek professional help.
You're just homophobic.
why did u go in such a relation?!
Get therapy then. There's no reason to fear or be angry at someone simply because they are homosexual. How would you feel if women got angry and freakout out when you checked them out? Does looking at someone mean you want to bed them? Of course not.
Get grip on yourself and stop having negative feelings toward people who have no more control over being gay than you do being straight (assuming you are). It's not a choice we make and 99% of the time if you let a gay man know you aren't interested, he'll move on.
Unfortunately for many women, guys coming on to us undesired and uninvited don't often move on as quickly as we'd like.
This is actually two different things: Gays, and fear
Gays = A soul in the opposite body.
Fear = Lizard brain freak out = You don't understand something, so is it a threat to you. Sometimes simple karma = If you scare someone else, you end up being afraid.
well its your choice and if they make u feel like that then its ur problem cus ther are a lot of nice ppl out there who HAPPEN to be gay.
its quite unfair to b angry though to b honest. its not realy their fault just like its not our fault that straight people like the opposite sex, we didnt choice it so dont get angry at them...also im sure they arent lookin at u..just cus they are gay, u cud say u cud b scared because straight ppl might be lookin at u, it doesnt mean anythin weva they are or not does it
It's normal to feel a bit conscious of people around you and your surroundings. It's not normal however to feel this bad. You need to see a doctor but remember, homosexuals won't hurt you - they are just the same as other peopleand their sexuality shouldn't matter.
seek some help. maybe deep down inside ur trying to hide something.
Don't listen to people who say 'Just get a grip' there is obviously an underlying problem that is causing you to act like this. Maybe an incident in the past you have blocked out. I wouldn't say Panic attacks are the symptoms of someone who is merely a homophobe. You really should talk to a professional about it because there are plenty of gay people around and you can't live your life like that.
you could have prevails i think that is what you call it look at
http://media.www.newsrecord.org/media/st...
u need to see a doctor about dis and im realy soz about wot u experienced be 4.
They are checking you out just as you check out females. They are...men. Men think about sex constantly. There was a news show, I believe, called Sex in America, maybe by John Stossel where part of the show followed a happily married young urban couple around for the day. The man thought about having sex with 61 women he met or seen that day. heehee Yep, that's us. The woman didn't think about it once, although she said the shoe salesman had nice eyes.
Just as a woman wouldn't want guys checking her out in a community shower, say at a gym, military unit, certain occupations' and school's shower facilities, so do hetero guys don't like it when gay men check them out. Just as there are seperate facilities between the sexes, there should be seperate facilities for the sexual orientations.
We don't tell the woman to grow up and take the googling so why should we tell the hetero men?
Just remember, your anger stops at the gay man's body ie don't assault them.
Get a grip Mark.Not every gay guy is bad.Just your peace of **** dad.I love Gays...they are so much fun.Maybe you need a Lesbian freind to help you understand.
When I initially read your question, I couldn't help but think that perhaps you have homosexual feelings that you are suppressing, but after learning of what your Father did to you I'm not so sure. This shouldn't have happened to you and I'm sorry.
There was a study that was done that measured the sexual arousal of men when they were showed heterosexual and homosexual porn (whether it be two men or women). It was shown that the men that identified themselves as being homophobic were the ones that were aroused by the gay porn, while men that were indifferent to to whether or not a man was gay or not showed no arousal.
I'm gay, and I would be lying if I were to say that this kind of hypocrisy doesn't anger me.
There were societies in the past that acknowledged the reality that many people are gay. Ancient Greece comes to mind of course. The native Americans are themselves known to have been accepting of homosexuality among them, and of differences in general. Perhaps if we were to follow their example we would be able to live in a society that does not encourage people to lie about who it is they are.
If you're a attractive guy, chances are you are going to have many men and women appreciate the beauty which you possess. I'm really very attracted to straight men because I find masculinity to be so alluring. I admire straight guys; even their mannerisms draw me in. To me there's nothing more beautiful then a guy who acts like a guy.
A couple of years ago I obtained the courage to tell this one guy that I found him attractive, and was shot down. Another time, I wrote this guy a short note basically telling him that I found him attractive and that I hoped he wouldn't be offended by me saying so. I made it clear in the note that in no way did he look gay to me and that he seemed straight and that is why I found him attractive in the first place. I said this because I didn't want him to think I saw something within him that he didn't want the world to see. I was being honest when I said this to him. I did think he was straight, but then again most gay men act like straight men. We just happen to be people who enjoy being masculine; acting as a man, yet have an attraction for the same sex. In both instances I walked away when I realized the guy wasn't attracted to me. I'm only interested in persuing a guy who desires me as well and respect the fact that people have a right to their own personal space.
I want you to to take a look at two links. One link is to the study I referred to I believe, although it may be another study they are referencing that happens to be nearly identical to the one I spoke if. I think it may be a different study only because I had thought the study I spoke of took place at the University of Florida, not the University of Georgia.
Another link is to a article that was designed to aid the medical community in dealing with their gay patients. It is really interesting. I would really like you to read this.
I have this desire to tell you this and I hope you know this already. What happened to you as a child is nothing to be ashamed of. It in no way makes you any less of a man. You're Father was sick and this has no reflection on you.
I had an experience in my childhood that haunts me until this day as well and I know just how badly it can affect ones psyche.
If you happen to have homosexual feelings yourself, don't spend your life supressing them. Life is too short to live for someone else. I'm 26 now, and realized quite a while ago that when it comes down to it ou have to accept yourself. Screw eveyone else. I wish you the best.
http://matthewmiller.net/2004_06_01_arch...
http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3359.h...