Can you please help me figure my boyfriend out?!?!
Ok we have been together for 5 months, he used to treat me like I was the only person that mattered. Now he acts as if he can treat me however and it doesnt matter because we've been together for a while.
Have you ever done this? Is it normal?
I kind of think he's acting like this because he knows I love him and would never break up with him [[ Im not saying im going to]] I just need help figuring out what to say to him to tell him how I feel, what would you want your gf to say if this happened to you?
Please nothing sarcastic.
Thanks.
Answer:
You are in a difficult situation. You must truley look deep inside your heart and ask yourself if you really love him. If the answer is yes then the next step is to have a conversation with him. See where he stands. Remember a relationship is 50-50 don't give more or less than that. If you do you will be stepped on day in and day out. If you stay with him, that is not love, it is lust. You won't find the answers out here with us, you might get some ideas. The answers is in your heart. Five months is not a long time, if it is time for you to move on, do it now and don't waste more time. best wishes...
I think it is really hard when you have been with someone for a while to not take them for granted and I think that's what you b/f is doing.
I think the main things you need to do is to sit him down and just tell him how you feel. Let him know that his behaviour is upsetting you and why.
Be honest and tell him what is important to you.
Good luck
This situation should not be of telling him something, but to do an action to him, or he should do an action to you, or both of you take an action together. The problem i see here is that your relationship is running out of fire, and needs that extra flame to respice what you got. Either if you had sex before and he thinks its the same or it is really boring, he will treat you differently. If you and him do things the same over and over again like go to a sports event, or go to a movie all the time, it will get real boring. I suggest doing something extra special with him and change up this next couple of weeks with events in yours and his lives that were nothing like you did before. Go to that fancy restaurant, go to that scenic waterfall and enjoy that everlasting kiss, but make sure it is something unique. This may open him up and see that he can treat you like you are it and the only person!
If you want to be optomistic, he's just comfortable, this is very possible, if this is the case, you need to explain to him what is making you uncomfortable or you're just figuring out he's a mindless moron.
This boyfriend of yours is definitely taking you for granted. Its easy to do after being in a relationship for a while but not after only 5 months. You need to talk with him about respect and you need to respect yourself and not allow this type of treatment. This could also lead to more abusive behavior down the road so keep you eyes open . I'm not saying this will happen but if he is doing this after only 5 months what do you think it will be like after a couple of years or maybe even marriage someday.
Good Luck
Its definitely not normal. Well check urself first to see if u made any errors urself n then u can ask him about his awkward behaviour (not in a confrontational way cos guys dont like that, probably in a more gentle way)
UMM, DUH YOU JUST DATED AN ACTOR. You know the ones who puts on acts, treat you real nice, put you first. And after a few months are weeks you been together his real side shows. Man you is one dumb girl.
Guys are basically clueless and emotionally immature when they first come out of the factory. After 23-25 years old, some actually grow up and go from guys to men. However, I would say that about half never do make the transition.
If you're dating a young guy, you can expect this kind of behavior from a good majority of guys. Guys learn how to be guys from their dads, brothers, and, to a lesser extent, other guys. It takes a good woman to set them straight on the path to manhood.
You can be that good woman by demanding respect and not tolerating his immature and disrespectful ways. Why do you say that you "would never break up with him"? If you aren't ready to walk, you'll just be his doormat. You're not married to this guy and I would strongly recommend that you not even consider that until he grows up...a lot.
Love is not enough. There has to be respect, trust, loyalty, and quality for a relationship to work. If you don't find it with this guy and he doesn't shape up, he doesn't deserve you and you, most certainly, don't have to put up with him.