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Decreased Sexual Desire at 23?

I am in a realationship and have been for a ltitle over a year now, I am very attracted and in love, but I have no desire to have sex. I don't miss it at all, and I have never been that way. Unfortunately I have had an active past sex life and now that I am safer smarter and older I could care less. It really puts strain on our relationship. My boyfriend is really supportive and not pushy but I can tell when it starts to get to him, so I give in but he doesn't like that it's no fun for me and I hate that I can't even enjoy it to make him happy! I don't understand, I do go to the gyno in 2 wks and will try and find out more then, but is there anything OTC that I can get to increase it or help? I also have been tested and I have no diseases to cause this...thanks for any help!

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hi, i have a similar problem but here is the trick, try beat routine. if you get used to the same positions, same talks, same everything evryday, ur mind gets bored hence you get stimulated less. with me i get more sexually active when am frastrated, i long for closure from him, if he wont talk then i make him talk to me inbed. men dont like sweet talking so find new ways of stimulating urself b4 he gets home from work. good luck.
i have the same problem. i so wish i could help you.
The only logical explanation i can think of is that u r getting sick of doing it everyday or frequently. Maybe, u need to take a break for a couple of days to keep you going, that way u will miss it n want it more next time around. Don't worry, i am sure it's only temporary.
I am curious what medications are you taking? I would be glad to help you out if want a doctor's opinion we can talk. My email is dr.sarah_brown@yahoo.com
Are you taking any meds? There are a lot on the market that can affect your sexual desire. In addition, you need to consider if there is something from your past that could be triggering this--such as feeling that sex was the basis for the relationship rather than it being an enhancement? ---There are all kinds of things that can affect your level of desire. Sometimes you just have to eleminat the options one at a time. Good luck?
same here! my guy's a great lover but i think i'm just frigid... i wish i could find help for both of us...
Sounds like it could be hormonal. Are you on the pill? Discuss your lack of sex drive w/your doctor for sure - there has to be a reason that this is happening, since you said you've never been like this before. I don't know if anything OTC would help - those weird pills that say they increase your libido just sound stupid to me! What about a little wine? :o)
Good luck.
i think you should go to your doctor, and ask him to do a hormone test, because maybe you have hormone inbalance, because you are to young to not have sex desire, and sometimes when you , or if you using contraceptives, pills sometimes happens to, i hope this helps,
Wow you are right that's sad to be so young and not have a desire to feel good and enjoy something so intimidate and personal in your life even if you were very active back in the past something has really changed for sure in you.
I am glad you have such and understanding and loving boyfriend because I don't have to tell you if you had the wrong man he would be either bail on you or cheating on you and you know that and so do I;
I can understand why your boyfriend wouldn't want you to do that just to give in so he can feel fulfilled there is no love in that for him or you as you stated.
My thoughts and prayers go with you and your very understanding boyfriend and I hope you find out what is going on with you your Hormone level is not low is it?
At least you know that you have no disease and that is good as well you and your man will get through this if you two have survived this long together going through this and he is still sticking by you I can't see you two parting any time soon and as for OTC,I'm not even going there that is between you and a doctor should ask not a lay person that may suggest something that might make things even worst for you right like you really need more of that.
There are many things OTC you can get; I personally sometimes don't feel like it and I'm only 20, I'm married for a couple of years now, I think its just stages, people do get tired of it.. Don't worry about it... the doctor is just probably going to prescribe you with some type of medication.
sex is in the brain.. that's why it was so stimulating that time you haven't had it yet. see, would you be so eager to read a book you have read a hundred times already? i don't think so.. but if you read a different story just perhaps, you'll get the rush up your spine again.

why not imagine different scenarios, or a different person when you are about to let him do you.. act, internalize.. as if it is your first time,