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You know, I've never heard this feeling spoken of before, but now that I think about it, I suspect it may be fairly common. It wouldn't surprise me if most men resent the intrusion of a stranger into what he subconsciously considers "his territory". As long as you don't let it stop your girl from getting the health care she needs, I think time will make it easier. If it becomes a really obsessive thing, then you'd need to get some help.
But would you feel the same way about a female gynecologist? If not, maybe your girl could change doctors.
You have to deal with it - its for her health - its a once a year check up it won't kill you - stop being so selfish.
This is for her benefit and yours. An ob/gyne is specialized in the woman's body and have seen hundreds/thousands etc.
One of the forms has a question about do you want the nurse in during the exam. I am sure if she allows under HEPPA guidelines you may escort her on her visit. Usually the rooms do not have the space and that could be one reason. Some women prefer this time alone with their ob/gyne to ask questions pertaining to their feelings about their body. A woman wants to get as much info as she can at this visit. Some questions she may want privacy. This subject is between you and her...Give her some space...
You are normal, its unpleasant but there you are.
We women dont like the gyne either but the jobs got to be done.
The gyne isn't being intimate, its no different to a mechanic looking for an engine problem, just a lot warmer and gynes get to wear suits.
Okay, you have a problem and it's you. You need to go see a therapist to see if you can get some help. All women go to the gynecologist; I don't know any woman who enjoys her visit there. It is not a "fun time;" grow up, young man!
For weman, it is a medical thing ONLY. There is no way that a dr. or woman find it pleasurable. It is medical. You need to pull it together! Your sharing these feelings with your girlfriend can make her less likely to get the MEDICAL she needs and could cause her to not get her yearly exam, not be diagnosed with problems, not get treated and she could die. Since we wemen don't like the exams anyway, it would be easier to skip the exams. You need to encourage her, not discourage.
If she has a male doctor maybe the two of you can discuss having a woman doctor, if your gf is ok with it. Some women feel comfortable with a male. But also as much as it doesnt sit well with you, imagine us women having to go through the visit with the doctor, no women I know enjoys it. So try to get through it, worrying yourself over something so petty that happens ONCE a year is not cool.
Have you told your girlfriend how much that bothers you? Does it bother her too? Would it bother you less if the gynecologist was a female? There are many female gynecologists so many women have that option to go with one if they want to. I personally feel more comfortable with a female. I'm a 23 year old woman and I had a strong religious upbringing, so I feel a little apprehensive at the thought of a male doctor looking at me down there. I think there are many women who are more comfortable with female gynecologists, and if they are, they should feel free to choose one.
You really need to get over it. You say that you want her to be healthy, and this is how it works.
My boyfriend always makes a funny comment about my doctor seeing parts of me that only he gets to see.
Believe me, my doctor is in and out in 30 seconds or less - hers is too. Most OBGYN's are in their 50's or 60's it seems, who have been staring at women for probably 30 years or more. They probably couldn't care less if they see another one.
Don't worry, I'm sure neither your g/f or her doctor gets any form of pleasure out of it, it's just a necessary evil.
No your not the only one out there that feels that way. I must say you have some insecurity issues though. And you need to think about WHY you feel this way. Think of your past relationships. Did anyone cheat on you in the past? Are your parents still married? Did one parent cheat on the other? First be honest with your girlfriend about your feelings and then ask if she would consider changing her gyno to a female doctor. Although I must tell you that a female doctor my not be the best doctor. I had a female gyno and she really screwed me up on a surgery I had and the male doctor I saw when I was having trouble is the one that fixed me up! It could be that men are so intrigued by the female body that they are just naturally better doctors, because they want to really know who everything works.