I am 18 years old and have been sexually active (with the same person) for almost 3 years. About a year ago i kind of became less interested in sex and since then it has continued decreasing and now I am almost completey uninterested. I feel bad because I don't know how to explain it with my boyfriend without hurting his feelings. He has asked me on different occasions if I am still attracted to him, which I am now more than I ever have been. It has nothing to do with his perfomance AT ALL. It is all me. I love spending time with him and I don't understand what my problem is. I am positive I'm not depressed or stressed out. I'm a happy person, I'm just not interested in sex. He doesn't ever make me feel bad about it but I worry that this is hurting his self esteem and may one day ruin our relationship. What should I do? Also, about 2 years ago I started getting the depo provera shot, which may be part of the reason but I don't want to stop getting it. Any advice? Serious answers please
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Sounds like it's time to change your method of birth control. It is perfectly normal to lose interest in sex from time to time. We all go through that. Sometimes we want it more than others. I went six months without even THINKING about it. Anyway, I understand that you like the minimal hassle of depo... so maybe try switching to the nuva ring? It's in three weeks, out one. AND my husband says he can't feel it during sex (and he is no small potato, if you know what I mean). Or. you could do what I do sometimes... I make myself a cup of hot chocolate and put a half tablespoon of cayenne pepper in it! It makes me hot.
See your Gyn. Your problem could be hormonal.
Check with your gyno first and see if it's a hormonal problem. If it isn't I'd take stock of your relationship with this person.maybe you've fallen into a routine and boredom has set in. You love spending time with him but don't want sex. sounds like you've become good buddies but not lovers. it can happen.
